Swinger's Etiquette

• As in any social activity, there are expected rules of conduct in swinging.  Following the rules is an effective way to make yourself welcome within the swinging community.
  
  Everyone has the right of refusal, so you don't have to swing with a person unless you want to, and they don't have to swing with you.  Never touch or fondle another person without first asking if they are interested in intimate contact. If they say "No," take it graciously and don't try to coax, pressure or persuade them to change their mind.  “NO MEANS NO!”  When you say "Yes" to others, be honest and enthusiastic.  When you say "NO," be tactful and courteous.  But don't say "Maybe later" when you really mean "NO."
  
  If you arrive as a couple, leave as a couple when attending a swing dance or party.  It is frowned upon by most hosts and other swinger when a partner departs leaving her mate at the party as a single.
  
  Don't take someone to a swing party who is not fully informed as to the nature of the party and their expected behavior.
  
  Sexy and provocative attire is customary for the women.  Wear a coat or cover-up to go from your vehicle to the entrance.  If the party or dance is in a public area through which you pass to the location of the party/dance, wear a cover-up. If you're attending an on-premise party, take a robe, negligee, or other slip-on attire.   Keep money, jewelry and other valuables to a minimum.  If the establishment provides lockers, take your own padlock and stow your valuables, money, jewelry, etc.
   
• Cleanliness and good grooming is essential for swinging participants.  Be especially aware of any body odor you may develop due to the physical nature of these activities.  Even a kiss can be a turnoff if delivered with a breath heavy with the taste of cigarettes or liquor. Breath mints or gum are very helpful.
  
  Remember, what happens at a party or dance, stays at the party/dance.  Don’t discuss your private play sessions with others.
  
  The group room is for group swinging so if you want privacy, don't go to the group room. If you take your partner or any other person to the group room to swing, you can expect others to ask to join you and your partner.  The right of refusal always applies, of course.  Swinging in the group room doesn't automatically give others the right to join you nor you the right to join others.
  
  If Club swing parties have dues or donations, it is your responsibility to present it upon being checked in for a party.
  
  Don't be a bedroom "cruiser."  Closed doors or curtains means the occupants do not want company joining in. Looking into bedrooms, pulling back curtains, turning on lights and going into private swing areas uninvited are major breaches of swinging etiquette.  Inappropriate behavior will get you banned from future events.
  
  Report any objectionable behavior by another guest to the hosts so they can correct the situation before it escalates.
  
  All Illegal substances are prohibited at swing clubs and private parties.  If alcohol is not allowed at the dance or party, do not bring your own with you to the event.
  
  If a party is BYOB (bring your own bottle), only drink what you bring.  Never help yourself to what others have brought without their permission.  Always respect property that belongs to others.
  
  If you like a club or party, say so.  If it just isn't your thing, leave.  To speak negatively of a party to the other guests is simply poor manners.